Do vs. Be

It took me a few weeks, but I finally decided on my New Year’s Resolutions. More on that in a sec. Because first, why did it take so long?

I was struggling with finding goals (aka resolutions) that weren’t only aspirational, but were also legitimately attainable, AND, once attained, would get me measurable steps closer to the kind of person I wanted to be.

And then I realized – I don’t want to BE anyone else. I love who I am. I just want to BE the best me I can envision. (Sounds corny, but stick with me.)

So many people want to BE something they’re not. They want to “be famous,” “be more successful,” “be a runner/skier/martial artist/golfer,” “be an artist/actor/Instagram star…” And so on.

But all of those things are, well, things, aka actions and results. Things are what you have or do, not who you are. In order to “be famous,” you have to actually DO something. In order to “be successful,” you have to do something very well and get recognized and rewarded.

If you want to BE something, great. Go off and pursue that which you’d like to be.

Me? I’d like to be me. I simply want to be the healthy, happy, deeply satisfied me.

To do that, I have to, well, do something.

This brings me to my resolutions.

For 2019, I resolve to:

  • Track my WW points.
  • Get 150 minutes of exercise per week.
  • Record 30 podcasts with my sister in 2019.

I resolve to track my WW points EVEN when I know I’m going to go over. And if it’s not 52 weeks of the year, it’s going to be far more often than not. Why? Because I know that tracking points is just another way of being mindful of what and how I’m eating. Ignorance might be bliss, but it’s also how I gained 40 pounds. Eh, with a sprinkling of denial in there too.

Getting 150 minutes of exercise per week is a big goal for me. I’ve danced around an exercise commitment for years, never wanting to set one and then fail myself if I couldn’t make it. Or set a goal and then stop doing the thing as soon as I achieved it. This goal will invariably get more moving more, building a healthy habit, and yet gives me the latitude to JUST WALK. Or just do yoga, which I love. I just need to do a little more of what I can already do and already enjoy.

Committing to record podcasts with my sister is a little like tracking WW points (though admittedly a LOT more fun). I look forward not only to the conversation – sharing my successes and struggles, hearing her story each week – but when we talk regularly we become accountable to each other. I know she has my back, just like I have hers.

These may seem simple, even mundane. Truly tactical. But you know what? Is it more than I’m doing today? Yes. Will these resolutions help me DO the things I need to do to more fully BE my best me? Yes.

Here’s to a healthy, happy and deeply satisfying 2019.

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